Entitled Mom Ends Engagement And Gets Banned From Restaurant

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Nov 16, 2021 2:00 PM EST

You just never know if you're going to end up in the crossfires of a terribly entitled parent. This mom sounds like she was a whole handful. Honestly though, it seems like her horrific performance at the restaurant was for the best for everyone else involved. Besides the poor employees that had to put up with her toxic behavior, of course. 

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    Font - r/entitledparents u/StaringAtTheSunftSZA • 213d + Join 1 5 21 N 13 2 1 1 EM ends my engagement and gets me banned from a steak house all in one night XL Oh my gosh so glad I found this sub. Here we go: I can finally air my uncensored frustration about the night my engagement was single handedly corrupted by my entitled mother in law. (Let's call her "Ellen" because she always reminded me of Ellen DeGeneres, even before all this recent news broke.)
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    Organism - Ok, so my girlfriend and I were really engaged to be engaged. We'd both agreed we wanted to get married, but I hadn't done the formal proposal yet because we wanted to meet each other's families first (neither lived nearby.) I always thought the old trope about meeting the in- laws being a big fiasco was a myth, both because I was younger and more naive then, and because l'm lucky to have easy parents.
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    Font - My girlfriend met them for a few hours. Once we were alone just me and them I told them my intentions and my mom asked, "Does she have any kids already?" And my dad asked "Does she have a good solid job?" And they both asked "You really love her?" And that was that, I had their full support for the marriage. I thought meeting her parents would be the same. Some grilling was to be expected, but as long as I was honest and respectful, it would all be fine. Relevant fact, they had my girlfri
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    Font - My girlfriend and I made the trip up to their city and I met them for the first time over dinner at a steak house. It was pretty upscale, and we'd scheduled the dinner for 8:00pm, so I was surprised to see they'd brought the kid along with them. I met everyone at once and the initial awkwardness settled once we'd sat down. We were making great small talk when the six year old said she was thirsty. No big deal right? Well, all of a sudden Ellen starts screaming, "Water? Water! WATER?!" A w
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    Font - We had been sitting for about fifteen or twenty minutes without service, but they were visibly behind, and there were no circumstances that would've warranted that shouting. I should've realized from how unfazed everyone else at the table was that I should be bracing myself for a long night, but I couldn't imagine what was to come at that point.
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    Font - The waiter rushed over with water and apologized for the delay, explaining a few very large parties had arrived all at once. The guy was seemed sincere, and quite affable, so I thought the water would just be an anomaly in an otherwise pleasant night. Then Ellen kicked into full gear. "We'll need a kids menu." She informed the waiter. He said that they didn't have a kids menu, but that the chef could simplify most dishes. "What do you mean you don't have a kids menu?" Ellen replied in tot
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    Font - He explained they didn't get too many child visitors and that there were enough plain foods on the menu that no separate menu had ever been necessary. Ellen sighed dramatically and waved him away. Literally, without saying a word, waved him off from the table. I tried to give him an apologetic glance but, understandably, he didn't look back our way. I was so glad the poor guy left and didn't have to be subjected to her anymore. Meanwhile she turned her attention on me, and I almost wished
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    Font - Ellen turned to her six year old and went "Hear that, hun? You want to be sure to snag a man who works for profit. Learn from this. It's not too late for you." I couldn't tell if she was trying to be funny or not. So, I just let it pass, looking over to my girlfriend to see if she was even considering speaking up on my behalf. Nope. The waiter came back, visibly nervous. That hurt, because he was so relaxed and personable at the start of the meal. He asked if we'd like to hear the special
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    Font - Waiter: First we have a lightly seared strip stea- Ellen: Next! Waiter: Oh... uh, ok. Then we have a broiled leg of grass fed- Ellen: Next! Waiter: Uh, we, uh, we have a pasta prima vera mixed. with-
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    Font - Ellen: NEEEEXXXXTTTTTTUHHH And on and on until he'd gone through all seven or ten specials, even though she ultimately ordered off the menu, a plain ribeye, well done. She tried to order her daughter the same, but the kid said she just wanted plain mashed potatoes, so Ellen let her get mashed potatoes alone for dinner. Then... she sent the waiter away! The rest of us hadn't even ordered yet! And everyone else just sat there like it was entirely normal!
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    Font - I waited for someone to say something, thinking it was more her older daughter (my girlfriend's) place or her husband's, but when no one did I couldn't help myself. "I, uh, was the one steak and potatoes going to be for all of us, or?" My girlfriend explained, in the tone you'd use for a tourist violating a sacred local taboo, "My mom always has the waiter put the kid's food in first, so it can get started right away. We'll order once the kitchen has hers." I thought she was joking, since
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    Font - Thankfully her dad at least recognized that what was normal for them might not be as regular to me and tried to lighten the mood with a change of topic. But not even ten minutes after we'd ordered (I guess technically five minutes after we'd ordered, ten minutes after she and her daughter had ordered,) Ellen started in again. Another table, that had been there long before we were, got a side order of mashed potatoes with their meal. Ellen threw a total conniption. She was sputtering so in
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    Font - Finally she managed to flag down some bus boy who barely spoke English and began laying into him like he'd just side swiped her on the freeway. He kept trying to explain he wasn't a server and he could go get one, but she wouldn't stop to breath long enough for him to find someone who could actually help. All the while I kept looking at my girlfriend for signs of embarrassment, or at the very least irritation, but you wouldn't have known if she was even hearing any of this. Our waiter cam
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    Font - The waiter kindly but concisely explained, "WellI Ma'm, those people ordered potatoes before your party had placed their order." Ellen looks this man dead in the eye (finally) and says "Well it doesn't matter when they ordered it. My daughter is the youngest one here! Her food should come out first." You could tell the waiter was working hard to restrain himself at this point. He explained it was a first come, first served, policy and age didn't help one way or the other. He offered to go
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    Font - I chimed in, "I'm with you on that last part." And to my utter shock, instead of laughing at my joke, my girlfriend seemed annoyed with me! So after a few minutes the waiter comes back and says the potatoes will be out very soon. Ellen then goes and does something that, again, I thought was just a myth. She took three singles and a five out of her wallet and put them on the table in full view of the waiter. Then she took one single away and said "Every table I see getting potatoes before
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    Font - I was absolutely mortified. The waiter, to his unending credit, just took a deep breath and said "I don't have control over the order in which the kitchen fires tickets, but what I can tell you is it should be out any minute." And left without saying anything disparaging. I had been holding my tongue all night as well, in the name of my relationship, but once the tip hit the table (the $8 tip for a $100+ bill, on top of all else) I figured if my girlfriend was half the woman I thought she
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    Font - So I scooted my chair back a bit and said, "Listen I know what you're doing with the cash on the table, but that kind of thing makes me really uncomfortable, and it's just not called for. Please put the money away or we can just continue this some other time." My girlfriend's dad spits back, "What? How cheap do you have to be to not believe in tipping service workers?" Before I could process whether he was serious or yanking my chain, Ellen shocked me with, "No, you know what, you're righ
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    Font - She half explained something about her daughter "starving to death," as she was walking away with the stranger's food, but unsurprisingly, that wasn't convincing enough for them. The old lady she took it from followed her right over to our table and tried to take it back. I was already searching for my coat tag in preparation to go, but a shoving match was beginning to unfold between Ellen and an elderly woman with a tennis ball walker, and far be it from me to sit through all that had ha
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    Font - But it all fell on deaf ears. Ellen yelled at the old lady, "How could you sit there and eat these when my daughter hasn't even been served yet? She's sitting here hungry, just a little girl, and you're over there stuffing your face? Come on, other potatoes will be out any minute." And the old lady, got to love her, was like, "Great, if they'll be out any minute, then what's the problem?!" To which Ellen still found holier than thou ground, gasping, "Language, please!"
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    Font - Finally the waiter, and this time someone higher up as well, I think the manager, thank God, came over to separate them, as they had begun to raise their voices and cause a disturbance. Staff had already asked Ellen to turn down her daughter's iPad multiple times without heed, and I'm guessing the waiter informed management about the "tip on the table," stunt she pulled, because this was their final straw. They told us we were going to have to leave the restaurant.
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    Font - "But we don't even have our food yet!" Ellen complained at the guy. This was clearly not the manager's first rodeo. "You can take the food that's already been served free of charge, everything else will be cancelled. Please leave immediately." The old lady didn't miss her chance to knock the potatoes right onto the floor so we couldn't try to take them with us. Nothing else had been served yet, so, we had to leave without any food. When my girlfriend and I were finally alone in our car sh
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    Font - That was the beginning of the end of our relationship. The fact that she didn't see anything wrong with her mom's behavior, and that l'd be marrying into that situation, shook me too deep. We both dodged a bullet in more ways than one. In hindsight, we weren't right for each other, regardless of who her family was. Her mom saved us both a lot of time and heartache, helping me realize in one night what would've probably taken us years otherwise. Within a month we'd moved into separate apar
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